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<\/figure>\n\n\n\nG\u00f6receli kavramlar\u0131, boylar\u0131ndan k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck ku\u015f kafeslerinin i\u00e7ine hapsede hapsede, azal\u0131yoruz, de\u011ferler kayboluyor, farkl\u0131l\u0131klar yontuluyor, ayn\u0131la\u015fma ba\u015fl\u0131yor.<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
\u0130nsan\u0131n ayn\u0131la\u015fmas\u0131, insanl\u0131\u011f\u0131n yokolmas\u0131, kimse bunu kabullenmek istemiyor. \u0130zledi\u011finiz filmleri d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcn, koca koca ordular, koyun s\u00fcr\u00fcs\u00fc gibi g\u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fcz\u00fcn \u00f6n\u00fcnde \u00f6l\u00fcyor filmlerde, pek \u00fcz\u00fcc\u00fc etkisi olmuyor \u00e7o\u011funlu\u011fun \u00fczerinde, \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc onlar ayn\u0131 g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcyor bize. Filmde biraz farkl\u0131la\u015ft\u0131r\u0131lm\u0131\u015f, ya da farkl\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131 \u00f6ne \u00e7\u0131kar\u0131lm\u0131\u015f birisinin \u00f6l\u00fcm\u00fc, o ki\u015fi iyi ya da k\u00f6t\u00fc olsa da bizi etkiliyor. Farkl\u0131l\u0131klar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 cilalay\u0131p, onlar\u0131 g\u00f6\u011fs\u00fcm\u00fcz\u00fc gere gere orta yere koyamazsak, biz de bu d\u00fcnyadan silik bir bi\u00e7imde kay\u0131p gidece\u011fiz birg\u00fcn. Belki o ana kadar ya\u015fam\u0131m\u0131z, y\u00fczeysel bir ba\u015far\u0131 etiketiyle akm\u0131\u015f ama i\u00e7imizde ba\u015far\u0131 tan\u0131m\u0131n\u0131 hi\u00e7 sorgulamad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131zdan, ger\u00e7ek ba\u015far\u0131y\u0131 hi\u00e7 bulamad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 sadece kendimize itiraf ederek g\u00f6\u00e7\u00fcp gidece\u011fiz. Farkl\u0131 olmak ad\u0131na bir zorlama da de\u011fil bahsetti\u011fim bu sat\u0131rlarda. Ayn\u0131la\u015fmamak ad\u0131na \u00f6zen g\u00f6stermekten, insan\u0131n rengini koruyabilmesinden bahsediyorum. Kendi rengimizi, kendi tan\u0131mlar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 bulmak ve bu tan\u0131mlar i\u00e7inde mutlu olabilmek, etiketlere yap\u0131\u015farak g\u00fcvende hissetme zay\u0131fl\u0131\u011f\u0131ndan vazge\u00e7mekten bahsediyorum. Belki rengimize benzeyenler \u00e7\u0131kacak kar\u015f\u0131m\u0131za, vars\u0131n \u00e7\u0131ks\u0131n. Ama\u00e7 illa ki farkl\u0131 olmak de\u011fil ki, kendi varolu\u015fumuza sad\u0131k olmak, sayg\u0131 duymak.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u0130nsanl\u0131\u011fa dair, g\u00f6receli t\u00fcm kavramlar i\u00e7inden neden ba\u015far\u0131y\u0131 se\u00e7tim derseniz, \u015f\u00f6yle a\u00e7\u0131klamak isterim. D\u00fcnyadaki g\u00f6receli kavramlar i\u00e7inde, ba\u015far\u0131n\u0131n y\u00fczeysel bir form\u00fcle hapsedilmi\u015f olmas\u0131, ba\u015far\u0131 kavram\u0131n\u0131, di\u011fer g\u00f6receli kavramlara k\u0131yasla, insanl\u0131\u011fa en zarar verir hale sokuyor, i\u015fte bu y\u00fczden.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Hep birlikte hayali bir durum \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmas\u0131 yapal\u0131m. Fortune 500 \u015firketlerinin CEO\u2019lar\u0131n\u0131 kar\u015f\u0131n\u0131za al\u0131n. Bu senaryoda, diyelim ki konu\u015ftu\u011funuz anda bu CEO\u2019lar\u0131n her birinin \u00f6mr\u00fc maalesef sonuna gelmi\u015f. En i\u00e7ten, en d\u00fcr\u00fcst sohbeti ger\u00e7ekle\u015ftirebilecek altyap\u0131ya sahipsiniz. \u0130nsanlar\u0131n b\u00fcy\u00fck bir k\u0131sm\u0131, son anlar\u0131nda hep kendilerine d\u00fcr\u00fcstt\u00fcr, b\u00fct\u00fcn bir \u00f6mr\u00fc bu bilin\u00e7den uzak ge\u00e7irmi\u015f olsalar bile. D\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcn, ba\u015far\u0131 kelimesinin i\u00e7ine hapis ya\u015fam\u0131\u015f insanlarla ba\u015far\u0131n\u0131n tan\u0131m\u0131n\u0131 konu\u015fuyorsunuz o anda. Muhakkak istisna te\u015fkil eden liderler var, onlar\u0131n b\u00fcy\u00fck bir \u00e7o\u011funlu\u011fu ile ilgili \u201cCamdan Evler\u201d k\u00f6\u015femde yaz\u0131lar yazd\u0131m ama \u00e7o\u011funlu\u011fun buna istisna te\u015fkil etmedi\u011fini biliyoruz. Bu insanlarla konu\u015furken, siz de duyuyorsunuz de\u011fil mi? Payla\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131 hayalk\u0131r\u0131kl\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131, hayatta onlar\u0131n asl\u0131nda ba\u015far\u0131 diye adland\u0131raca\u011f\u0131 \u015feylerden uzak kal\u0131\u015flar\u0131n\u0131 ve tabii ki belki mutluluklar\u0131n\u0131 ve ba\u015far\u0131 hislerini de. D\u0131\u015fardan bak\u0131l\u0131nca, onlar\u0131n aln\u0131na ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131 diye bir etiket yap\u0131\u015ft\u0131r\u0131lm\u0131\u015f oysa hepsi o etiketten mutlu ya da hemfikir olarak ayr\u0131lm\u0131yor bu d\u00fcnyadan. Yanlar\u0131na al\u0131p gittikleri hislerin ortak noktas\u0131, h\u0131zl\u0131 t\u00fcketilmi\u015f zaman hisleri, yar\u0131m kalm\u0131\u015fl\u0131k, kalplerinin ba\u015far\u0131 dedi\u011fi \u015feye kulak verememi\u015flik, kulak verseler bile gere\u011fini yapamam\u0131\u015fl\u0131k hissi\u2026 B\u00fct\u00fcn bu hisleri siz de benim gibi duydu\u011funuza g\u00f6re, bize ne \u00f6\u011f\u00fctler verdiklerini de duymu\u015fsunuzdur eminim. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ya\u015farken, hayat\u0131n verdi\u011fi \u00f6d\u00fcl\u00fc bulmak istiyorsan\u0131z ve son nefesinizi verece\u011finiz g\u00fcn geldi\u011finde de \u00f6d\u00fcl dedi\u011finiz \u015feyin asl\u0131nda bir \u00f6d\u00fcl olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 farketmek istemiyorsan\u0131z, bunun tek bir yolu var. \u00d6d\u00fcl\u00fc hi\u00e7bir zaman d\u0131\u015farda bir yerde ya da bir ba\u015fkas\u0131ndan aramamal\u0131s\u0131n\u0131z. Siz kendinize \u00f6d\u00fcl verecek noktaya gelince, sizin i\u00e7in \u00f6nemi olmasa da, sizin d\u0131\u015f\u0131n\u0131zda ki d\u00fcnya buna alk\u0131\u015f tutar hale gelecektir Ger\u00e7ek \u00f6d\u00fcl, ger\u00e7ek ba\u015far\u0131 hissi, i\u00e7inizdeki hisdir, d\u0131\u015fardan bir yans\u0131ma de\u011fildir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u00d6zetle, i\u00e7inizi dinleyerek, sizi siz yapan me\u015fguliyeti bulmak mutlak ba\u015far\u0131d\u0131r. \u00d6d\u00fcl zaten bunun ka\u00e7\u0131n\u0131lmaz sonucudur. Bu \u00f6d\u00fcl her zaman para ile ya da \u015fan ve \u015f\u00f6hretle ele ge\u00e7irilmek zorunda de\u011fildir. Hayata veda ederken, son anlar\u0131m\u0131zda, kendimizi ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131z ve mutsuz hissetmek \u00e7ok a\u011f\u0131r bir bedel. Kimbilir belki i\u00e7 sesiniz, (m\u00fcmk\u00fcn oldu\u011funca ge\u00e7 olmas\u0131n\u0131 dileyerek) o ilerdeki sizle, \u015fimdiki sizi konu\u015fturup, yolculu\u011funu bitirmek \u00fczere olan halinizden \u00f6\u011f\u00fctler almay\u0131 deneyebilir. \u015eafak, Kas\u0131m 2009\u2019daki bir makalesinde demi\u015f ki: \u201cPeki ya dehr? Kesintisiz bir \u015fekilde uzay\u0131p giden, dolay\u0131s\u0131yla dilim dilim ayr\u0131lmayan o sonsuz b\u00fct\u00fcn\u00fcn ad\u0131d\u0131r dehr. Kimi alimler der ki: “\u0130nsan\u0131n zaman\u0131na ‘zaman’ deriz, Tanr\u0131n\u0131n zaman\u0131na ise ‘dehr’.\u201d Ba\u015far\u0131 ile ilgili, bu tan\u0131mlamas\u0131ndan yola \u00e7\u0131kan bir ba\u011flant\u0131 kurmak istiyorum. Ba\u015far\u0131 insan\u0131n zaman\u0131n\u0131 da dehr\u2019de ge\u00e7irmesidir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u0130nsan\u0131n zaman\u0131n\u0131 klasik zaman kavram\u0131na s\u0131k\u0131\u015fm\u0131\u015f olarak de\u011fil de, dehr\u2019de ge\u00e7irmesi demek; do\u011frular\u0131m\u0131z\u0131, kendi rengimizi hi\u00e7 ge\u00e7 kalmadan bulup, bunu kesintisiz ya\u015fayabilmek, bu yolla zaman\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 bir b\u00fct\u00fcn olarak ge\u00e7irebilmektir.<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
\u0130nsan\u0131n zaman\u0131n\u0131 klasik zaman kavram\u0131na s\u0131k\u0131\u015fm\u0131\u015f olarak de\u011fil de, dehr\u2019de ge\u00e7irmesi demek; do\u011frular\u0131m\u0131z\u0131, kendi rengimizi hi\u00e7 ge\u00e7 kalmadan bulup, bunu kesintisiz ya\u015fayabilmek, bu yolla zaman\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 bir b\u00fct\u00fcn olarak ge\u00e7irebilmektir. M\u00fckafat almayacak ortamlarda bile o i\u00e7 sesden, i\u00e7 do\u011frudan vazge\u00e7memektir. Hep ba\u015fkas\u0131n\u0131n onaylamas\u0131 ile ba\u015far\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 anlayabilen bir insansak, en ba\u015fta kendi kendimizin s\u00fcrekli izleyicisi oldu\u011fumuzu unutmamak ve bunu ba\u015farabilmektir. Kimselerin olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 bir tuvalette, muslu\u011fu, sifonu kullanma al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n, ba\u015fkalar\u0131 oldu\u011funda farkl\u0131 olmamas\u0131 kadar basit bir denklemdir asl\u0131nda bu. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Hepinize, \u201cBa\u015fard\u0131m, \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc yapt\u0131klar\u0131m do\u011frular\u0131ma, beni mutlu eden, beni ben yapan \u015feylere ters d\u00fc\u015fmesine hi\u00e7 izin vermedim\u201d diyerek noktalayabilece\u011finiz uzun bir \u00f6m\u00fcr diliyorum. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Deniz Ba\u015f\u0131b\u00fcy\u00fck <\/h3>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Bu makale Aral\u0131k 2010 CEO’s Dergisi 72. say\u0131s\u0131nda Deniz Ba\u015f\u0131b\u00fcy\u00fck’e ait Camdan Evler k\u00f6\u015fesinde yay\u0131nlanm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. Ne g\u00f6receli kavramlar \u00fczerine, ne kadar fiyakal\u0131 etiketler kondurup, birbirimizi yanl\u0131\u015f y\u00f6nlendire y\u00f6nlendire, insanl\u0131\u011f\u0131 yuvarlay\u0131p g\u00f6t\u00fcr\u00fcyoruz. \u0130nsanl\u0131k\u2026 Yuvarlan\u0131nca \u00e7\u0131\u011f gibi b\u00fcy\u00fcm\u00fcyor \u00fcstelik, hacmi b\u00fcy\u00fcse de i\u00e7i kofla\u015f\u0131yor. Ne g\u00f6receli kavramlar \u00fczerine, ne kadar fiyakal\u0131 etiketler kondurup, birbirimizi yanl\u0131\u015f y\u00f6nlendire y\u00f6nlendire, […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":441,"featured_media":1690,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_feature_clip_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[216,196,155,220],"tags":[432,434,433],"class_list":["post-1689","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-liderlik-felsefesi","category-makaleler","category-tumu-tr","category-yasama-dair","tag-basari-tr","tag-dehr-tr","tag-insanlik-tr"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/denizbasibuyuk.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/web-IMG_4477-scaled.jpg","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/denizbasibuyuk.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1689","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/denizbasibuyuk.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/denizbasibuyuk.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/denizbasibuyuk.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/441"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/denizbasibuyuk.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1689"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/denizbasibuyuk.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1689\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":3526,"href":"https:\/\/denizbasibuyuk.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1689\/revisions\/3526"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/denizbasibuyuk.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/1690"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/denizbasibuyuk.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1689"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/denizbasibuyuk.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1689"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/denizbasibuyuk.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1689"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}